 He knows his stuff. Don't overlook this one. |
| Review Date: June 6, 2009 |
| Reviewer: Haley Johnson, |
| Seriously, I know he's a comic and everything, but he's got some good advice in this book. And it's not hard to read, either. He has a lot humor that makes this book so enjoyable to read. I liked it so much, I hope he has a followup. I'd recommend it, definetly, along with How To Be Wanted: Use the Law of Attraction to Date the Man You Most Desire and Live the Life You Deserve. |
Fly in the Barbershop
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| Review Date: January 29, 2009 |
| Reviewer: Shamontiel L. Vaughn, Chicago |
Women can sit around with our girlfriends talking about how much men don't make sense or how they won't act right, but we oftentimes find better advice by actually asking for advice from our guy friends. The only problem is our guy friends may lie to spare our feelings, but Steve Harvey is not trying to be our friends and he's telling it like it t.i.s. in his new book, "Act Like a Lady: Think Like a Man: What Men Really Think About Love, Relationships, Intimacy, and Commitment."
Harvey breaks down all of the things that women need to know about men in 15 chapters on relationships--mama's boys, marriage, whether we are the ones for men to sports fish (reel in and throw back into the water when they're done) or a keeper; when we should introduce men to our child(ren); why the 90-day rule for sex makes sense; how independent women can remember to be ladies; the three things that drive men (who they are, what they do, and how much they make); and why "We need to talk" is a phrase that is man's worst enemy.
There are some contradictions within the read, like why women need to get out of the 1945 mentality of waiting on men to marry them, but at the same time, sticking to the chivalrous expectations of letting him open doors, wearing heels, carrying heavy items and letting him fix things and paint. (However, I interviewed him for the "Chicago Defender" [article will be out in February sometime] and he explained why he felt some old-fashioned values should still be met. His analysis made sense too.)
But for every contradiction, there are lessons that make so much sense. Harvey has a point. Women are far more complex with their emotions than men are, judging from his research and his own opinions and observance from my own friends. Poet Maya Angelou said it best when saying "When someone shows you who they are, believe them." That was the main theme throughout Harvey's read--to set standards and stick to them. While some men may feel like Harvey is snitching, women like me finished the read feeling educated and confident in my past decisions. Excellent and quick read, but grab your highlighters and take notes.
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Boys Shack. Men Build Homes.
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| Review Date: March 5, 2009 |
| Reviewer: Kelly J. Jadon, Florida |
From: www.BasilAndSpice.com
Author & Book Views On A Healthy Life!
Book Review: Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man: What Men Really Think About Love, Relationships, Intimacy, and Commitment (Harper Collins, 2009) by Steve Harvey with Denene Miller
Veteran comedian Steve Harvey has risen to the pinnacle of the love and relationships world with one book--Act Like a Lady--Think Like A Man (Harper Collins, 2009) with Denene Miller. The son of parents who have been married 46 years, Harvey's book developed out of questions from many women during the course of his show, who simply do not understand the simplicity of men. The purpose of the book: show women how to achieve a solid relationship, whether they're dating, engaged, or married.
Harvey writes that men focus on three points of extreme interest:
1. Who they are (their title)
2. How they get their title (job/career)
3. And what they achieve (money earned)
I've been married more than 20 years to my own husband. I must agree with Harvey, that this is true. Men are defined by other men. They look at each other's car/truck, watch, home, etc..as signs of success. Until a man is on his way in life, he cannot sit around and discuss his relationship with you. Harvey clarifies this situation quite well.
Before a relationship progresses too far, Harvey wants every woman to ask her potential man these five questions:
1. What are your short-term goals?
2. What are your long-term goals?
3. What are your views on relationships?
4. What do you think about me?
5. How do you feel about me?
22 years ago, I asked my husband similar questions, including what he thought about children and divorce.
Harvey includes further great chapters which really open up a man's mind to a woman:
* "Men Respect Standards--Get Some"
* "Why Men Cheat"
* "Mama's Boys"
* "Sports Fish vs. Keepers--" Example: "A woman who is dressed appropriately--has her goodies reasonably covered, but is still sexy, is a keeper; a woman who is scantily clad and dripping sex is a throwback."
* "We Need to Talk, And Other Words That Make Men Run For Cover"
* "How to Get the Ring"
Harvey offers up front honest advice for women who have been sacrificing themselves in search of the right guy. He extols women to put themselves first and not be afraid of losing the guy. "If a man truly loves you, he's not going anywhere." This reminds me of a friend from long ago who was recently divorced and in search of a new husband. Each fellow dated her a short while and moved on. She didn't know what the problem was. I warned her not to give the milk away for free with the latest guy. "Too late for that!" she stated. He moved on too.
Near the back of the book, Harvey includes a section for questions you've always wanted answered:
Example: Do men prefer skinny or thick women?
Example: Do men like women who cook more than women who don't?
Example: Do men secretly evaluate whether you'll be a good mother, homemaker, and so on? Answer: Absolutely!
Likewise women, evaluate a potential mate.
Writing under the premise that too many women don't understand men, and men get away with way too much, Harvey, as a father, wishes to raise awareness among women, while at the same time forcing men to be honest about their attitude toward the relationship.
If you're tired of mama's boys, men who won't commit or you're in search of the elusive catch, this book's for you. Harvey shows the reader when to be honest, when to compromise a bit, and when to hold her man to a standard, because "boys shack," but "men build homes."
5 Stars |
A must read for every woman dating
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| Review Date: February 11, 2009 |
| Reviewer: browneyes, Tennessee |
| I just finished reading this book. It only took me two days to get through this, because I found it very interesting and I love to read. I wish this book was out ten years ago. I know that I would have done certain things differently and maybe I would be happily married instead of happily divorced. I love the 90 day rule he talks about and how he lets you know that you are the one in control if we only knew our power and used it. I plan on definitely putting his advice into action when I am ready to start dating again. I too often find myself stuck not knowing if I should stay or walk away from guys because I think maybe I'm reading too much into certain actions and now I know that those instincts are right. I highly recommend this book, It's a great read and for sure with Steve Harveys sense of humor expect to have some laughs along the way. |
We don't have to like what he said!
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| Review Date: February 10, 2009 |
| Reviewer: Mechelle Sheppard, Tampa, FL |
| I read the two negative reviews. Ladies, if you buy this book and feel it will set us back 50 years, then continue doing as most of us have, and getting the same old tired results. If you are lucky enough to have a guy that doesn't feel like this, then hey great. I have spoken with many of my male friends and relatives, and they say the same thing he does. That is not to say that all men are like that. Steve Harvey has never claimed to be a relationship or woman expert. He actually admits he isn't. He says however, he is a man and knows how men think. Come on ladies, don't we know how other women operate for the most part? Why wouldn't it be the same for men? We don't have to like what he said or even understand the male pysche, but why not try it. As "an expert," Dr. Phil would ask regarding what we are presently doing, "How's that workin' for ya? |
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